Sometimes it takes a catalyst!

After years of Blend dedicating his skills to crafting beautiful homes for others, we embarked on a journey to build our own. Everything seemed promising as the ground was broken and construction began. However, six months into the project, my own professional world was thrown into disarray when the company I worked for shut down. Faced with the choice of seeking new employment or reviving my own business, we opted for the latter. With a solid client base, it seemed like the sensible decision, especially given the ongoing construction project.

During this time, Blend’s grandmother fell ill and passed away, prompting him to make multiple trips back to the northeast alone. Our children were in school, and as a self-employed individual, I had the flexibility to manage things at home. Blend’s absence was necessary, but it also provided an opportunity for him to reconnect with family and friends. Little did I know, these trips would unveil a darker reality lurking beneath the surface of our seemingly stable relationship.

One Saturday in early summer, a revelation from my son, Will, shed light on Blend’s questionable behavior. Despite their supposed work on the construction site, Blend’s incessant phone activity raised suspicions. It was a wake-up call for me, prompting me to investigate further. What I discovered shattered the illusion of trust and stability I had clung to for so long.

A clandestine text message exchange revealed Blend’s involvement with another woman, sparking a confrontation that would forever alter the course of our lives. The ensuing argument escalated into a physical altercation, prompting me to involve the authorities. It was a harrowing ordeal, but it marked the beginning of my journey towards reclaiming my life from the chaos and deceit that had consumed it.

In the aftermath of this revelation, my investigations uncovered a web of lies and infidelity, involving not just one, but multiple women. Despite my efforts to confront him and seek closure, Blend remained steadfast in his denial, refusing to acknowledge the extent of his betrayal.

As the year drew to a close, Blend’s behavior continued to deteriorate, culminating in a violent outburst on Christmas Eve. It was a stark reminder of the toxic environment we had been living in, prompting me to take decisive action to protect myself and my children.

Amidst the chaos and uncertainty, a glimmer of hope emerged in the form of a visit from a friend, Lee, who offered much-needed support during this tumultuous time. Together, we uncovered further evidence of Blend’s deceit, solidifying my resolve to break free from his toxic influence once and for all.

The final straw came when Blend’s erratic behavior during a night out with Lee led to a confrontation with the police, resulting in his arrest and subsequent counseling. It was a moment of reckoning that forced me to confront the harsh reality of our situation and take decisive action to secure a better future for myself and my children.

In the aftermath of these events, and my children coming to me asking me to get them away form all this, I made the difficult decision to leave everything behind and start anew across the country. It was a leap of faith, driven by the desire to escape the cycle of dysfunction and reclaim our lives. Though the road ahead was uncertain, it offered the promise of a fresh start, free from the shackles of Blend’s betrayal and deceit.