Unrepairable —The lengths a narcissistic sex addict will go.

A narcissistic sex addict operates with a level of cunning and deceit that rivals any other addiction. Their primary concern is not about being seen in public, but rather about concealing their actions from you and others in your household. They employ various tactics to maintain their secret lives, such as setting up multiple email accounts under fictitious names, often using passwords with personal significance to them, imbued with a sense of power or boasting about their desires.

Their telephone and internet activity increase, as they believe using their phone to go online covers their tracks. However, there are always ways to uncover their deceitful behavior and expose them for who they truly are. Shameless and relentless, a sex addict knows no bounds in their pursuit of gratification, even using work hours to satisfy their cravings.

Blend’s dedication to his deceitful behavior knew no bounds, delving into extraordinary lengths that likely remain hidden to this day. One glaring example is when he not only taught his brother how to navigate online platforms like Plenty of Fish and Facebook but went as far as setting up his brother’s accounts for him.

The extent of his manipulation became evident when one of Blend’s targets revealed that she initially connected with him on Plenty of Fish, only to discover that the account and accompanying photo did not belong to him. In a cunning move, Blend concocted a story, claiming that he was using his brother’s account because his purported ex-wife (we were still married, with him pleading, begging, and proclaiming his love for me) was a relentless stalker, and he needed to conceal his identity to evade her. This ruse, despite its audacity, proved successful, allowing Blend to continue his duplicitous activities undetected.

This insidious pattern of deception extended beyond online interactions, as evidenced by the discovery of his infidelity by his long-term girlfriend, who fell victim to similar manipulative tactics. Such calculated schemes underscore the severity of a narcissistic sex addict’s willingness to go to extreme lengths to maintain their facade and perpetuate their harmful behaviors.

Employers may have tracking systems in place, as exemplified by a CEO who was fired after an investigation revealed extensive use of office phones and computers for explicit activities. Despite the discovery, the CEO was allowed to move on to another company, perpetuating their destructive behavior elsewhere.

A sex addict will sacrifice time with their family, arriving late to events or skipping them altogether, in favor of seeking attention elsewhere. They may frequent unconventional and inexpensive dating venues, presenting a facade to attract attention and sympathy from others. Their need for validation knows no bounds, and they will go to great lengths to maintain their secret arrangements, relishing the thrill of deception.

It’s crucial to recognize that addiction is a lifelong struggle, and a narcissistic sex addict is unlikely to change without genuine dedication to self-improvement. Just as large corporations cut ties with problematic individuals, it may be necessary to sever ties with such individuals to protect yourself and others from their damaging behavior. Ultimately, you are not obligated to fix someone who shows no commitment to fixing themselves.