Sex Addicts Do Not Have Scruples

It has not taken long and Blend is trying to blend back in. He actually text some of his past attempts (women) a New Year message. Women who walked away. I wonder if apparently intelligent women like Florence will reply? She especially stood out to me. Florence appeared educated and dignified, way beyond his league. I would be very surprised. Seemingly naive Cher has fallen back into his trap. She is pretty and young for him, young an inexperienced enough to be a victim. He quickly started asking for photos again but finally it has alerted her. She told him she feels funny about the photo request…and so she should.

Sex addicts work in very similar ways, but let me tell you some of the patterns of this one. Hopefully these will help you to keep from becoming his (or someone like him) victim.

1) Sweet talks: sugar, baby. cutie, etc. He figures out quickly what you like and do not like in that sense. Unfortunately more women like being cooed at than not. The female is naturally week in those ways, he knows this and will constantly pay you compliments and most likely mean few of them at heart, if any, of them. It’s part of his manipulation process. He has NO respect for women in reality. It’s his method of getting you in the position he needs — for his needs.
2) He will often ask what you are wearing, this is a leader for him and men like him.
3) He likes to get you into a nurturing mode with him, he likes being cooed over and babied.
4) While a dignified, hard working man can not be bothered with constant middle of the work day texting, messaging etc — this one thrives on it (as a sex addict often does). He has almost an insane NEED for it. He needs the attention. Sex addicts have low self-esteem and need an unusual amount of affirmation. They form clever ways of getting it without your realizing you are doing so. In his hay-day moments he has as many as six women he is texting and messaging at one time. He is careful not to address you by name so he can easily cut and pasted to keep up with the conversations. All conversations go the same way until one of the women weakens and responds to his needs. Then he will drop the other conversations and focus on the one to get out of her what turns him on at the given moment. It can be as simple as words, photos or full on sex talk.
5) He will asked for photos even though you have sent them before. His goal is to loosen you up over time, whether it’s minute, days or months, the goal is to get explicit photos from you from a simple smile with cleavage, to full on nude, and yah for him if he got you to send raw shots. Remember…for him it’s the thrill of the chase. The more you will give, the more he will chase, until you start getting too serious. It’s one thing to share photos back and forth with a lover. It can be fun and thrilling, but you will see and know when it starts to make you feel uneasy…if you are smart, pay attention and don;t fall his victim.
6) The word love comes easy for him. He will use it if he needs to but really has no idea what it means. He has no respect for the word and throws it lightly.
7) He likes to tell you his woes, and inner most secrets. He has told MANY women “I have shared with you things I have told no one else”, “I feel so comfortable with you, I don’t know why, but I talk to you so easily”, and many phrases to that sense.
8) He lies! Especially about his home life, his wife and yes even his children. A sex addict tells you what he thinks you want to hear. A respectful woman would not want any degree of a personal relationship with a married man, regardless…yet he convinces them! There are too many men out there ladies, that don’t have the mental and addictive baggage this one does. He lies about his job and his income. He was the catalyst in our losing both our homes, cars, boat, motorcycle and dignity…which may explain why he won’t leave my home. He can not afford to. He is not nor ever has been an entrepreneur as he claims in some bios, he is no longer a realtor, and he holds a low paying, mediocre job where his employer believes him to be bipolar. If only they knew the real intensity of his condition!
9) Blend may not have the wealth these guys do but, look up sex addiction and read about Tiger Woods, Jessie James, Anthony Weiner and other known sex addicts. They lie, cheat and lose regardless of social standing . . . they do not have scruples.

Scruple – a doubt or hesitation that troubles the conscience or that comes from the difficulty of determining whether something is right.
Okay perhaps only half a Scruple is a good category and use for people like this. He does not have any sort of a conscience, but definitely can not determine what is right. Right to a sex addict is only what gives them a constant rise.

This is the year he is going, going, GONE! Out of my life forever. The youngest of my children leave for college this summer and I will have no need to ever so much as see or hear him breath again. Hallelujah!

Will he or someone like him be your burden? Be strong, love yourself and run, run, run!

Happy New Year!