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If you’re here because something in your relationship feels confusing, painful, or wrong, you are not alone.

This blog shares my journey of leaving a 24-year marriage marked by narcissistic behavior, chronic infidelity, and compulsive sexual behavior—and the lessons I learned along the way.

Like many people in similar situations, I spent years questioning my instincts. I often wondered whether I was overreacting, misunderstanding, or somehow responsible for the patterns I was seeing.

Writing about these experiences began as a form of personal therapy. Over time, it became something more: a place where others could recognize the warning signs, understand the emotional impact of these kinds of relationships, and realize they are not alone in what they are experiencing.

If something in your relationship feels wrong but you can’t quite explain why, the stories and reflections here may help you see patterns more clearly.

Begin With These Posts

If you’re new to the blog, these posts tell the core story of how the relationship unfolded and how the patterns eventually became impossible to ignore:

• Starting Off With a Warning — How the relationship first began.
• Looking Back… I Should Have Known — Early warning signs that made sense only in hindsight.
• Sometimes It Takes a Catalyst — The moment everything began to change.
• The Message I Had Been Waiting For — Unexpected confirmation that helped bring clarity.
• Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? — Understanding recurring patterns of behavior.

Learn the Warning Signs

If you are questioning behavior in your relationship, you may also want to read:

Warning Signs: Cheating, Secrecy, and Compulsive Sexual Behavior

This page outlines patterns that many people overlook until much later.

Why This Blog Exists

I am not a therapist or professional expert.

I am someone who lived through years of deception, manipulation, and emotional turmoil—and eventually chose to leave and rebuild my life.

This blog began as a way for me to process my own experience, but along the way, it helped me realize several important truths:

  1. I am not alone.
  2. What I experienced was real.
  3. It was not my fault.
  4. Healing is possible.

If sharing my story helps even one person recognize the signs earlier, trust their instincts, or feel less alone, then writing it has been worthwhile.

With understanding,
Liza Seamone
Author / Where Did I Go